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Your child won't share toys: selfishness or just their age?

⚡ Short answer: Not sharing at 18-24 months isn't selfishness — it's the healthy peak of 'mine' feelings; don't force it, offer swaps instead — real sharing comes at 3-4 years.

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19 aylık bebek annesi · Development

At the park, they won't give anyone their toys and want everyone else's. When do children learn to share, should I make them?

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The real reply from the in-app AI advisor

Don't worry — this age (18-24 months) doesn't understand sharing as a concept. They're at the peak of 'mine' feelings — ownership and possession, which is healthy development, not selfishness.

Forcing won't help; it usually makes them cling tighter. Instead:

  • Bring a backup toy and offer a swap: 'Alex is playing with that now, you can have this one.'
  • Model sharing yourself at home ('I used the spoon, now you use the spoon').

Real sharing comes around 3-4 years when friendship becomes a real concept. For now, these conflicts are temporary; don't take them personally.

⚕️ Health note: This answer is for general information only; it is not medical advice. Every baby is different — for decisions about your baby's health, consult your pediatrician.

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